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What are those magical secrets that psychologists have not shared with us and how can we use them?
1. Outward appearances tell people on an awful lot about you. As human beings, we can actually see whether a person is happy or not. We can see if they have a positive outlook on life, they’re smiling and happy to present, or they’re sad or glum. If we don’t see our own expressions and gestures, or our body language. how can we know what we’re communicating?
2. Gaining some distance can help you know yourself better. By not responding immediately to a text or writing down a conversation and reflecting on it a week later, we can be a little bit more calm in the moment. We can analyze things, and then we can advertise ourselves as being a better person.
3. You need to believe in yourself. If you’re good at something and you’re not spending time at it, you’re wasting your ability. We need to be realistic with what we’re good at, and then put the energy of passion behind that.
4. People who tear themselves down experience setbacks more frequently. If you’re suffering or have a distorted view of yourself, you’re going to tear yourself down, and you’re experiencing setbacks more often. If we are pulling ourselves back, it’s getting us nowhere. Life throws us curveballs, things will go wrong, but if we keep blaming ourselves and just taking
our own will to be better away from ourselves, we are taking our own ability to fulfill ourselves.
5. If you deceive yourself without realizing it, you’re still deceiving yourself. If you have a
tendency to self deceive, it comes from the desire to impress others. Supporting this idea is the
observation that people who are really good at manipulating are often quite full of themselves, because they are self-deceived as well.
6. The true self is good for you. Most people have an essential world core, or core values in life.
Our core values are what we feel and what exactly are our central thesis on life is, so we need to go with our gut instinct.
7. Secrets will weigh on you. The majority of people have secrets, and they carry guilt. We need to actively get out of that guilt and get back into our truths, because it’s where we need to be to flow.
8. Mirroring people’s body language when you interact with them is actually a good way of building a rapport. People trust you when you get on their level and mirror their mood and tone.
9. When walking through a crowd, if you keep your gaze at gaps between people rather than on people themselves, you’re going to notice that they’ll let you through because they’ll actually see what you’re doing, or intending to do, and let you pass.
10. A warm handshake is wonderful. It makes you more attractive, so greet people with a handshake, and you will actually see psychological secrets unfold.